Friday, June 22, 2007

To cry or not to cry..

I was watchin this movie "300" yesterday( some scenes were too gory for me so i simply walked out of the room n it was many times i did dat...an advantage of watchin movies in the convenience of ur home..)
It had a very interesting story..many would say inspirational..but dats just the superficial analysis..while watchin this movie i got an oppurtunity to take a sneek peek into the mind of a man..a man who believes dat love is a sign of weakness,crying is an act of cowardice and expressing ur feelings is the deed of the faint hearted ... In short,any man found exhibiting any of the above mentioned traits was not considered manly enough..To put it in the other way...only a man who shows no fear when faced with his worst adversary,who never expresses his feelings no matter what..who would never ask for help no matter how badly he needs it..and most important of all..who considers a woman a weaker sex..One can argue dat it was a period film where such notions existed..I completely agree..but if u look around, such men form a large chunk of today's so called modern society..
At the risk of being sounding feminist,lets examine this word "weaker sex"
If u say dat in terms of physical strength,then yes there is some amount of truth in dat statement and i have no qualms in admitting dat but then again,its not entirely correct and i have women like karnam malleshwari to corroborate my arguement although i admit its more of an exception than the norm..so u see dat statement isn't apt anymore..infact its the other way round..
Women can cry whenever they feel the need for it but a man cant thanks to the society,for such men aren't considered "macho"..a woman can freely express her feelings,her emotions,her fears etc but then again majority of the men cant,even if they want to,they wont..they think such things are "girly"..actually i can go on n on like this but ultimately my point is simple..in this rapidly changing and evolving society there is a desperate need to eliminate such ancient regressive conventions about manlihood after all just being physically strong and emotionally blocked isn't what defines a true man..a real man is someone who accepts change,who accepts himself for who he is,doesn't mind sharing his feelings with people close to him and most importantly considers women as equals..
I am writin this because i felt really sorry for all those men in the movie nad also also in our society...i mean whether u like it or not,sometimes crying ur heart out(ofcourse dat doesn't mean one should turn into a crybaby..hehe..) or sharing ur feelings with ur close friends is a huge relief and u always end up feelin much better..this has been considered as a sign of weakness for generations but if u ask me..its a sign of strength,coz it gives u courage to accept ur weaknesses and failures..and not many men can do dat and i feel truly sorry for them,for they lead a life of "false pride" and end up living a clastrophobic life..
So here i am sippin my cup of coffee(its cold now,thanks to all this typing..) and humming the song "strength of a woman" by shaggy..nice song..and i think i should go and heat up my coffee...